Embarking on a new lifestyle - how do I do it?

The formation of habits and changes in lifestyles have been widely studied by different research groups and around the world. The most famous study (Philippa Lally, Cornelia Gardener, Claire Deckers and Bas Verplanken, 2009) found that it takes on average about 66 days to adopt a new habit.

– 66 days means just over two months. In the hectic world of modern person, such a long period can feel unattainable and unmotivating, so it is best to break down the change into shorter 3-week periods: start a new habit, commit to it and ingrain it," says Nuikki.

I do this without having to consciously remember it

A habit is a behaviour that happens automatically without much thought. Establishing new habits requires multiple, consistent repetitions, which inevitably takes time. Changing a lifestyle is always about doing something new, not just about stopping an old habit: you have to start by actively remembering to make a choice in favour of a new habit rather than an automatic old one.

– Repetition is the key to forming a new habit. Research shows that repetitive behaviour in the same situation helps habits to become established," says Nuikki.

Learning takes time - a few slips don't destroy progress

Breaking habits is very difficult, because new habits do not erase old ones. So new habits have to become stronger to become automatic choices in the long term. Habit formation is theorised to be based not on external rewards or punishments, but rather on an individual's inner desire and purpose. According to Nuikki, when embarking on a journey of change, it is important to consider why change is important to you and what achieving it would enable you to do. Once we have set a goal that we feel is important to us, our motivation drives our behaviour towards it.

– There is no point in getting discouraged after a few days or weeks, even if the new habit is not yet the automatic choice. Breaking any habit is difficult and requires intrinsic motivation, which comes from innate enthusiasm. Think about the things you enjoy. Can you add elements of enjoyment to what you do?

When you want to create a new habit

1) Clearly define what you will do differently and in what situation

Choose a measurable goal that is challenging enough, but still achievable. Keep a record of the change so you can track your progress. For example, if you want to start exercising, you could set a goal to walk for 15 minutes three times a week. Small steps are easier to take and lower the threshold for starting.

2) Try to repeat a new activity consistently

Associate a habit with a specific event in your daily schedule to help establish a routine. For example, decide the context of the new habit, such as "at lunch I always drink a glass of water", when it doesn't matter where or what time you eat lunch. Over time, the new habit will start to form and require less and less effort.

3) Reward yourself and give yourself time

Successes in themselves are motivating. Notice them and enjoy even small successes. Feed your inner motivation by tracking your progress and reward yourself for your achievements along the way. Be kind to yourself if you don't succeed right away. Try to treat setbacks as learning experiences. Remember that a new habit only takes root once the old one has been learned from, and choosing a new habit no longer requires constant active thinking.

4) Maintain optimism for change

If you've made lifestyle changes in the past, think back to how you did and what strengths you drew on last time. Think about what might work for you now? Who could support you in making the change?